long distance relationships and all that fun stuff

Thanks for that info folks. It confirms my observations here. I see the guys eyeing off the Asian girls, but I have not really seen Asian guys taking an obvious interest in Anglo women. I am talking about the young guys in the street and the old guys in the Casino. I had one old guy from Singapore who appeared interested in me, but I sidestepped him when he tried to put his hands on me. He returns to his home Country for a set period of time, so he is probably not a citizen of this Country and probably had an ulterior motive. I am currently doing him a favour to help him keep his Casino membership card at its existing level and getting him some monetary benefits as he is away again at present.
Another one of my observations is that Asian women appear to take control, particularly when they marry the Foreigner. Are my observations accurate, or am I only seeing a "type" of Asian lady? I must confess that I want to go up to the guy and kick him up the bum for allowing himself to be treated/dominated/emasculated, in such a manner. I am trying to keep on topic and to understand what makes the Asian folk tick in their relationships. Again, my observations are that the Anglo girls here are more than happy to put their lips where zero said, so why the urge to rush off to Asia to "pick up" a bird? I hope I'm not overstepping the mark here, but does "size" have anything to do with things?

well, some Asian men are more forward than others; I saw an ad in Shenzhen party the other day of an Asian guy asking for a "a nice foreign girl to get married"!

http://www.shenzhenparty.com/classifieds/detail.php?catid=16&siteid=210823 

each to their own I guess 

I saw an ad in Shenzhen party the other day of an Asian guy asking for a "a nice foreign girl to get married"!

Oooo, somebody really  wants a visa to go abroad!

This link pretty well sums it up, Granny: http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2008/01/20/11-asian-girls/

Thanks for the link zero. I'm looking to see if I missed anything because there has to be more to it.  When I observe our ladies, we seem to be getting larger. I note that most of the Chinese I see are short and thin. I'd love to hear an Asian guy's general view on foreign women. Am I wrong in my observations about the ladies being "bossy" especially when they have the guy where they want him?   How about the cultural differences? To be really honest, I don't think or behave like the Asian folk that I see in the Casino. As a matter of interest and fact,they have ruined a lot of the priveledges we had because of their greed; it appears to be me first, me second and if there is any left, it is me third. How could someone, of a different culture, tolerate that type of behavior? There has to be more than what goes on in the bedroom? Again, I don't mean to overstep the mark, but I just can't seem to get to the real reason/reasons.

Granny, I have come to believe that there are the questions you're asking, and then the questions you're really asking   :-)

I will do my best to answer a bit of both.

In China and a lot of other cultures, there is a female Cinderella fantasy where you get whisked off and somebody takes care of you. It might not be the overwhelming storyline in most cases, but it's in the culture somewhere. Notice that the women often act like girls, whether they're 20 or 60 or 60 years old. It's culturally appropriate, even encouraged, to appear helpless sometimes. Remember, this is the country that produced foot-binding. Notice I said "appear" helpless. It is, in fact, a tactic for acquiring resources and stability. Thus, for women, marrying a foreigner works well enough. You got to his country, you let him take care of you.

Men everywhere, but in China especially, need an appearance of control. In China, this means knowing how to navigate the complex relationships, extract a good living from the system, work within the system while bending the hell out of the rules. Being able to "pull some strings" is a major point of pride for Chinese guys. Because of the "face" system and China's history, Chinese guys have particularly fragile egos. Nationalism in recent times fuels this. Marrying a foreign woman means stepping outside the system and, if you move to her country, making yourself helpless, at least for a while. These concepts do not go down easily for the vast majority of Chinese men.

Thus, while Chinese women are often open to relationships with foreigners, most Chinese men find it far preferable to stick with a local partner. Western women will do best with Chinese guys who come from outside the mainland, where attitudes might have liberalized somewhat. Maybe Hong Kong, Malaysia and Singapore.

Thanks zero. I have been told by ladies who know, that there are some generalisations going around about Asian males. I am told that they are just that, so I wasn't asking about that aspect as far as the males go. I have observed this "girlish" behavior in older Asian ladies; I expect to see it in YOUNG ladies of all nationalities. I have the greatest desire to tell the older ladies to cut the crap and to ask the older guys to "get real". I guess it's what you see is what you get with me. Interesting what you have told me about the males. As you know, most men turn to look at an attractive female, but I have taken particulalar notice and this does not generally appear to happen here even with the younger Asian males. It is as if they are purposely NOT looking, because my observations here are that Asian folk appear very nosey and miss nothing. In case you are all wondering about my interest in this topic, it is because human behavior interests me as long as I can just observe it. As my friends say.."If they are out there, they will find you!" Now to give you a quick smile! I appear to have come to the attention of a young man who collects the trollies at the supermarket. He is obviously foreign and he always goes out of his way to wave to me or to rush up to my car to take my trolly from me to save me putting it in the trolly bay. My older neighbor (who is nosey) had to give him the third degree yesterday. He is apparently an Afghani refugee who had been held in detention in a refugee centre. His story appears very sad. Looks like Granny Mae has attracted another lost soul. By the way, he appears to have been given some visa, so there doesn't appear to be any ulterior motive; besides, I'm tooooo old.   Perhaps its just as well I was too ill to go to China to teach. Who knows what could have happened with this relationship stuff?