For myself, I don't "do" funerals....and I NEVER, ever go to viewings.
Sorry to read that. Life is like a coin - it has three sides. The good, the bad and the ugly.
You have to embrace it all. Life has a way of throwing things at us and keeps repeating until that particular lesson is learnt. Very important in my book to see all things. No need to wallow in it but important to see it as it is, otherwise it is all too easy to get a warped picture of reality.
To me its like protecting your child from the dark side in the world and giving them the illusion that it doesn't exist - it just isn't fair to them. one day they have to confront it on their own grounds, and if we havent accustomed them to what is real, then you are doing them a huge disservice.
I know you actually believe this stuff Amonk, just that its something im a bit passionate about