congratualtions, frb! Best wishes for a long and happy relationship and lots of love and the whole package.
As Raoul observes, many of us have taken that walk down the green mile aisle with Chinese characteristics, and quite a few of us are still blissfully ignorant happy. However you choose to arrange the event, I hope it goes well and that you remember it for years as the happiest day of your life.
I have to concur with TLD. This is one day when you sit back and enjoy the ride.