Congrats and Condolences!
#1. Determine your budget.
I think I got in a little under 50k RMB, with the gold being 22k of that. Strategic location of the hotel and restaurant let me avoid the whole funeral procession thing.
#2. Who can you absolutely 100% rely on to assist who is local? Her parents live in the next province, so them showing up was more of a hindrance (they are VERY nice, but I don't want my furniture rearranged now, thank you). Some of my usual suspects were out of town, and it was only the very timely return of ScooterGirl who saved me from many last-minute disasters.
#3. Who do you want to invite? I could have kept mine a LOT smaller, but since the restaurant was reasonably priced, getting carried away with the guest list was affordable. I preferred to have as many friends there as possible. Others will want to keep it to 2-3 tables of close family and friends, but pay a LOT more for a very elegant restaurant.
#4. There's no reason you can't have that red quipao. My darling greeted guests in white, but then we changed into traditional red for the meal.
Hmmmnnnn. . . . new business idea. Lunatic Wedding Planners