I'm with a number of other voices here. In the 6 years I've been here, my stress levels have almost totally disappeared. I teach, do some part-time work for a Chinese company (management and PR, not teaching), do some freelance writing, and top up the coffers whenever I can with some editing. I'm as busy as I was in Oz, but without the 20-60 minute commute each way depending on traffic, without the serious pressure. Here, if I want to cut back, I can. I certainly made a hell of a lot more money in Oz, but my sanity is worth every cent I dropped in wages And given the cost of living here, I can afford more massages and hole-in-the-wall meals than I ever could in Oz. And no matter how busy I get with teaching, coaching etc, 4 months holiday a year makes it great.
I am a member of a gym, with a swimming pool, but am generally too slack busy to get there as often as I like. But I have plenty of other leisure activities that have me out and mixing with a wide range of people. I don't smoke and although I'm good at enjoying a few drinks, I don't drink as much as I did in Oz, and it's usually beer rather than the sambucca, vodka cruisers, champagne and red I drank weekly before. Most of my friends are Chinese and for me this makes it easy to stay pretty sober (until the baijiu dinners!!).
I don't feel isolated, in fact, carving out the space I need for me is more my concern.
I also feel that it was easier for me to adapt to being here because I didn't have to worry about anyone else. I don't have a partner or children that I need to be concerned about, how they are liking it, how they fit in. All I had to do was think about what I wanted out of this. I moved from a university with 50+ FTs to where (when I arrived) there was only one other - the Japanese teacher. This allowed me to find more Chinese friends, become more involved in the community I live in rather than the expat community.
I think I'm extraordinarily lucky to be here at this time, because of the changes occurring. I also feel that the longer I've stayed here, the more interesting opportunities have come my way, and most of them have been through the Chinese friends I've made.
It's been a pretty magic learning curve, and I'm as grateful as possible for it.