Yeah, anyway, I'm going to need some more advice from the Saloon regarding Point #4.
At some point, I'd like to further develop my career and life goals by going to graduate school in the US. Unfortunately, this girl (let's call her Sunshine) has made it abundantly clear she will not follow me there. Sunshine is older than I am with a thriving career and she won't just walk away.
If I go back to get my PhD in the US, that's about 4-6 years I'll be out of China. She won't wait that long for me and I won't make her.
Escaped Lunatic suggested that I not head back to America. I'm thinking of staying here. I don't want to lose her.