Hey peeps,
So my slightly late tongue in cheek un-informed opinion is that...
Most of the expat men/boys I have met (read that as MOST not ALL) wouldn't stand a chance with the expat women/girls here!
I'm not going to toot my own horn (to much), but I am a stereotypically attractive girl - all the Chinese boys.. AND girls tell me so
and I know that these guys would not be hooking up with the gorgeous girls that they do here, back in their home environment - the girls just wouldn't have them or their often outdated and racist ideals!
Ignoring the age difference, the oft sighted bulging bellies, generally less than fantastic drinking, eating and hygiene habits - and focusing more on 'who' these guys are ... they still wouldn't stand a chance.
There are some people here that enjoy not having to look after themselves at all -
"Hey dude, where's the mop, I just knocked a drink over"
"Oh I don't know, I haven't mopped since I got here"
(He's been here for 5 years and no, he doesn't have a cleaner!)
"Oh I didn't know you had a new gf, what happened to Summer?"
"Oh, you know its all about the chase, Chinese girls get boring really quickly you know - they're just a convenience"
"Can you speak Chinese?"
"Nah, no need - that's why I've got a sleeping dictionary"
"Learn how to drive you idiot! Chinese people - they don't know anything, I hate this country"
"Then maybe you should... you know, go somewhere else (like home)"
"Home has gone to the dogs, I'd never go back to that stinking place"
This is not mentioning the attractive guys who take full advantage of this and date several girls at once (not technically anything wrong with this), but sleeping with them all and not being honest... well.
I'm not a feminist brandishing a burning bra, and do love it when a guy opens doors for me etc but it feels like the foreign men here have a tendency to forget about women's rights back home. Rights that their mothers, grandmothers, sisters, aunties etc fought for. Apparently it's getting lost in translation. I understand its a different culture... but where is the respect for women as a whole?
There are men here who have married local girls, and given it their all - learning to speak the language fluently, studying the culture, committing to both time in China and in their home countries etc. They are the men here, the rest are boys, playing at a mens game.
Please don't hate me