Interesting reads
http://middlekingdomlife.com/guide/understanding-chinese-women.htm
http://middlekingdomlife.com/guide/dating-etiquette-sex-relationships-china.htm
I read that material a while back, and it WAS interesting, and some of it's probably true. However, I thought all the endless prattle about how all the Chinese girls have narcissistic neurosis and whatnot was, to use an expression I learned from an Aussie friend, a "load of bullocks".
Dr. Greg, despite his various and sundry qualifications and posturing, strikes me as someone who sees what's in his eyelashes (OK, I didn't have a real saying for that so I made one up, and maybe it doesn't make sense).
So let me put it more bluntly, it SEEMS as though his perception of Chinese girls is filtered through his observations being only of those girls reactions to him. He doesn't know what they are like when he's not there (kind of like I didn't know at first what this forum was like without me in it). In other words, the narcissistic neurosis and all that may be how Chinese girls interacted with an older, professional, self-confessed lard-tub, with $$$.
This reminds me of how in my city some other foreign males have made declarations about the sheer number of hookers on the street, and how many times they've been solicited. You can't go to the river, I've been told, without getting propositioned. I've yet to be approached even once by a prostitute here (unlike in Chiangmai, where if you go down the wrong street they grab you by the arm and try to drag you into the bar). I'm guessing it's because I'm not looking at the girls with the same lascivious lingering stare.
So, I thought Dr. Greg's erudite jargon about Chinese girls, and all their shortcomings, was a crock-load of
, and actually just a the mirror image of his own inadequacies.
I, on the other hand, at least know I'm full of
, meaning I know my perceptions are relative and don't think I can stamp the label on reality and fix people with certain inexorable attributes.
Ah, and this brings me back to my hundreds of Chinese female students, that Dr. Greg's esteemed analysis doesn't apply to. I can't look at them and see all that insufficiency at all. I start to wonder instead about the narcissism of the expert psychiatrist who misdiagnoses a whole country full of women based on their reaction to him. Somewhere he also says that anyone can have a sexy young Chinese woman, even an overweight old codger like himself. And yet he can't see how offensive that sounds (and can't recognize that, if that's the case, given the option of a younger more handsome, but equally rich man, she'd dump him in a second. Der!).
Oh, I shouldn't be so hard on Dr. Greg, I also thought Freud was off-the-mark and wondered if he, himself, was not projecting his own perpetual "anal phase" onto the rest of the population. His interpretation of Oedipus Rex and Antigone were dreadful and ushered in libraries of Freudian anal misinterpretations of classic literature.