I have been married to a girl from the countryside with a very traditional family indeed and the major, major, major problem is her unbeleivablely bad,mad, rude,vulgar and backward mother! Even compard to the rest of her family this woman is a not nice. She wont, or can talk in a logical manner or take any critisism-if she does she will just go crazy and shout- and has never said sorry in her life. I am British so this is a big cultural problem. I live with them in their house in Beijing and now that we have baby it has become worse as she thinks its up to her to make the choices for her. Had major arguments and now I dont talk to her much-especially after she tryed to pull my baby out of my arms, she thinks that because its her daughter's baby half of her belongs to her-and that has put presure on my wife. Now after all the arguments with her daughter and me now she realises who makes the choices with my baby-if I say no then its no etc-so she is careful now. She made my wifes thyroid enflame in one hour from an argument which resulted in an operation and a lifetime of taking medication. I am lucky however that my wife, for a Chinese girl in such a family is not in the slightest bit like them. She is kind very openminded and doesnt trust Chinese people (bit worrying that one even if some of them are crazy).